Some people get more mad at words than at whatever acts those words represent. To really see this (and know that’s what I saw) when it happens is something that gives me pause and makes me tilt my head.
As a device, I try to imagine the same conversation I’ve overheard where they were talking about each other with them both discussing third persons. A pattern becomes only clearer.
They don’t like certain words. Much more than they even care if they are true. Not only do they not only not resent their possible truth, they don’t seem to have invested much enegy worrying about that possibility, really, nor do they plan to….as soon as that word goes away.
How curious. How odd.
Words, are just the messenger. Talk is only thought made aloud. That should always be remembered, that direction, thoughts first, shaped into words (with or by less if possible). Reversing direction is a device employed by those fishing for conversation where there is no thought, or had not been at least concerning those words. That creates awkward and obviously manufactured conversation resembling either early social networking’s “50 questions” style list quizzes or lame interviews from teen magazines of yore. What’s your favorite color! Pass.
Yes, words are just the messenger of thought. Words are not magic. Words are just a device. They cannot create the things they describe. Nor destroy.
Dirty words? Wrong to say, even if they’re true?
“Don’t say that!”
Fine, but me “not saying” something doesn’t suddenly make it not true. Neither is something suddenly “magically” true because you say it.
“Oh yeah! If you can say it I can say it too!”
Acknowledgement cannot create a truth.
Denial of acknowledgement cannot destroy a truth.